Tentatively Back on the Roller Coaster

February 26th, 2010

So our agency posted that the next batch of referrals is in the air and will probably hit the States Monday.

The latest rumors have this batch going through 4-11-06 (reminder: our LID is 4-25-06.) If that is the case, we are about on target for a May or June referral! So I am tentatively stepping back onto the adoption roller coaster and hoping for the best. Right now that mostly consists of reading way too much Rumor Queen and a new stack of adoption books on the bed stand. And worrying that something else will come up. *sigh*

It has not, in fact translated into actually doing anything about the baby’s room yet. *major sigh*

Despite being (still) unemployed, I seem to have no time to do things. Besides looking for work, I volunteered for a bunch of SCA stuff and have been out everyday with with Joseph the Skull Crusher (long story, maybe I’ll tell ya later.)

Also, my husband bought a Wii. This is a Very Bad Thing.

This being out of work stuff has seriously killed my time-management skills. As well as brain cells. Seriously, if I don’t get back to work soon I am fixin’ to regress to a 3rd grade level. LOL!

Anyway, hoping very much to hear some good news on the job front here soon (seriously, this has been the longest hiring process ever!) So stay tuned.

In other good news (knock on wood) my aunt may be getting a new trailer in a process that has been going on nearly as long as we have been waiting for Lorelei. This will be a Very Good Thing so hoping it goes through soon! More details after it has gone through and I’m not worried so much about jinxing it.

BB,

Janice

I800A Approved

January 26th, 2010

So kudos once again to USCIS. Our application was recieved by the unit that handles Hague cases on Dec 11th. We had our fingerprinting appointments on Jan 13th and 15th (for some reason Darren and I got different appointment dates) and just recieved the approval today.

Not bad for government work.

Cheers,

Janice

Happy New Year!

January 1st, 2010

So glad to see the back of 2009. It was complete fail. (Ok, not complete fail – the were a few bright spots – but very nearly.)

Wishing all my friends and family a happier and more prosperous year than the last.

Brightest blessings and much love,

Janice

Short Update from my Brother

December 26th, 2009

My brother is having a nice time with the family. They didn’t get to go into Amsterdam due to the snow storms unfortunately – Paul said the snow really shut down the country, which doesn’t surprise me.
He did get to go into Antwerp with Oom Jim and cousin Joram. And on Christmas Eve they went to the crematorium to spread Oma’s ashes. I was so glad he got that chance to honor Oma and say goodbye to her.

Maaike sent me an IM saying she’d gotten to give him a big hug for me. (I’d told all of the family last Oct that they were getting to see him sooner than I was so would they please give him a big hug from me!)

Sounds like he has been able to accomplish most of what he wanted from this trip. I’m really happy for him. Hopefully we’ll get to see him in the summer, and if we’re really lucky, maybe he’ll even be able to meet his niece!

Hope everyone had/is having a wonderful holiday season of whatever religious (or not) persuasion.

Many bright blessings, one and all,

Janice

8 years

December 22nd, 2009

No, not since we started our adoption journey (though sometimes it seems like more.) But 8 years since my best friend and I exchanged our marriage vows in our own living room.

Here is to my love, my Darren, on our anniversary.

Always,

Janice

Updates

December 17th, 2009

Yes, as always, I am the world’s worst blogger. Here are some updates to keep you happy for a while at least…

First off, Happy Holidays to all and sundry. I’m in a Scrooge mood again this year, surprise, surprise but hoping this will be the last year I will feel this way. Part of it is yet one more year without our daughter (something we are really, really hoping will be remedied in 2010!) and the other part is being out of work for so long that even retail therapy is not an option. (BTW: most of you are getting hugs and kisses for Yule so… Love you, really!)

There is some sign of hope of that resolving sometime soon as well though. Heard back about the job that I really, really that they consider me a top candidate and that it is just the end-of-the-year scramble that is slowing the process down. Hope to hear shortly about a follow-up interview though so keep your fingers crossed etc.

I’m continuing to look of course, no putting all eggs in one basket, but, as per usual, there just ain’t much out there. This economy sucks and for all the so-called signs of recovery you couldn’t prove any of that by me and mine. (Yes, I know jobs always lag behind in a recovery but the jobless “recovery” seems to be becoming more and more of a “feature” of our US economy than a bug.) I really do hope things start recovering on the job front or it’s going to be a looooong 2010.

Speaking of 2010 though, and I say this with all due reservations because we have been repeatedly wrong, but this time we really do think 2010 is the year we will see our daughter’s face. The “when” is of course the question (and of course isn’t it just like the Universe to have the prospect of a job I really want come up at the same time as our referral may be only months away!) Anyway, as you may recall, our Log in Date (LID) is 4-25-2006. As of the last round of referrals, the CCAA has matched through 3-31-2006. Mind you it took all of 2009 to match March, but at least they are finally through the “monster month.” April is supposedly smaller, so we will see how fast they get through it.

Rumor Queen is predicting March/April at the current rate, the China Adoption Forecast site is predicting June and my own numbers put it somewhere in between. So anywhere from March to June is likely. That is, of course, only so long as they continue to refer at the same rate. They could go faster or, god-forbid, slower. We just don’t know.

I am tentatively excited. We’ve been burned so much in this it is hard to get my hopes up. We just sent in our latest round of USCIS paper work and who knows how long that will take to get approved (our agency said we should be fine… but aaarrggghhh anyway!)  The CCAA just got a new director and who knows what he will do (though RQ reports a very early sign of potentially positive changes in their relations with the agencies anyway.)

So, we are making plans to actually start on Lorelei’s room after the new year and at least thinking about the things that need to be in place but also guarding our hearts because we just don’t know. I am really happy to be seeing bloggy friends who are only a bit ahead of us in line finally seeing referrals though. It give me hope. We’re also, as I said, rethinking last names. If anyone wants to through out a suggestion, feel free (be nice though!) LOL!

In other news, as many of you heard, Joseph the Elder (his new SCA name) and I won Queen’s Champion Equestrian. We were very much helped by the wind (since Jo is pretty much unflappable) and the practice with jumping/hitting reeds and birjas. I owe many profound and heart-felt thanks to Debbie for dragging me and Jo out to practices and events repeatedly the last few months despite late nights and bad weather! You are so wonderful. And to Stacy, who now says she’s got to stop training to her competition. LOL! Now I’m on the hook for running two EQ events. Yikes!  Time to come up with nefarious things to do to my fellow equestrians. ;-)

Paul will be heading over to visit the relatives in the Netherlands tomorrow. I am so excited for him. He hasn’t seen them in 20 years. It will be very good for him to have a chance to see them all. They will be scattering Oma’s ashes while he is there so he will also have a chance to say good-bye with the family present as well, so I am very thankful for that. Sometimes things work out the way they need to. We’ll miss him here at Christmas but hopefully he will be able to come see us next summer, maybe even after his niece comes home!

Well, I really should get back to housework. We’re having a crowd for x-mas eve and I am looking forward to that.

Many blessings and much love to all my friends and family,

Janice

And Now for Something Completely Different

November 17th, 2009

Top Ten Exercises to Become a Better Equestrian.

10. Drop a heavy steel object on your foot. Don’t pick it up right away. Shout, “Get off, Stupid, GET OFF!”

9. Leap out of a moving vehicle and practice “relaxing into the fall.” Roll lithely into a ball and spring to your feet.

8. Learn to grab your checkbook out of your purse and write out a $200 check without even looking down.

7. Jog long distances carrying a halter and a carrot. Go ahead and tell the neighbors what you are doing – they might as well know now.

6. Affix a pair of reins to a moving freight train and practice pulling to a halt. Smile as if you are having fun.

5. Hone your fibbing skills: “See Hon, moving hay bales is FUN!” and “No, really, I’m glad your lucky performance and multimillion dollar horse
won the blue ribbon. I am just thankful that my hard work and actual ability won me second place.”

4. Practice dialing your chiropractor’s number with both arms paralyzed to the shoulder and one foot anchoring the lead rope of a frisky horse.

3. Borrow the US Army’s slogan: Be All That You Can Be — bitten, thrown, kicked, drug, stomped, slimed, trampled, frozen…

2. Lie face down in a puddle of mud in your most expensive riding clothes and repeat to yourself, “This is a learning experience, this is a learning experience, this is …”

1.THE NUMBER ONE EXERCISE TO BECOME A BETTER EQUESTRIAN:
Marry money.

h/t to Ariadne for passing on the list

Took a small spill off Jo-jo while jumping last week. Got my bell rung a little – Stacy things he clipped me in the back of the head – and my neck and shoulder were none too happy. Doing much better now and will be back up today.

Had a phone interview with Pacifica Graduate Institute! I’m really excited about this prospect and hope to hear in a few days about being called in for the face to face interview. So please send prayers/good thoughts/cross your fingers whatever for me to get called back in, for a great in-person interview and good things to follow.

BB,

Janice

Just Some Pics

October 21st, 2009

It was a very hard day today after a very looong day of travel. So just a few pics then I am signing off and going to sleep!

Blessings all,

Janice

Cousin Thomas and his friend playing for the memorial

Cousin Thomas and his friend playing for the memorial

Cousin Maarten singing the song he wrote for Oma

Cousin Maarten singing the song he wrote for Oma

Cousin Sharon and cousin Maarten

Cousin Sharon and cousin Maarten

From top left Sharon's boyfriend William, me, my 1st cousins once removed Maud and Irene, cousin Sharon and Great-aunt Jenny

From top left: Sharon's boyfriend William, me, my 1st cousins once removed Maud (daughter of Oma's sister Wilhelmina) and Irene (daughter of Oma's sister Jenny) cousin Sharon and Great-aunt Jenny

Cousin Sharon and me (she'll probably be mad at me for posting so many pics of her but hey they are nice pics of her!)

Cousin Sharon and me (she'll probably be mad at me for posting so many pics of her but hey they are nice pics of her!)

Leaving on a Jet Plane (Again)

October 19th, 2009

Yes, it is true. I am going back to the Netherlands. Wish it was for a happier purpose but I am very glad that I will be able to be there to celebrate her life, say goodbye and offer what comfort I may to my family.

Oma left money for the American grandkids to come to the funeral. Unfortunately Paul’s passport is expired and there was no way we could have gotten it renewed in time. And Darren is staying to take care of the sick kitty boy (who’s blood sugar is still giving us fits unfortunately.) So I will be the American delegation. ;-) (That’s my brother’s joke so blame it on him!)

Early birthday wishes to my cousin Ben. I know you won’t feel much like celebrating, but I hope you will find some joy in the day anyway.

Saturday was also Uncle Arij and Aunt Joyce’s 35th wedding anniversary. Again, I know they were not feeling festive but many congratulations to them. They are such lovely people and a wonderful couple.

Getting on a plane soon. Love you all.

Blessings,

Janice

RIP Eugenie Charlotte Sophia

October 16th, 2009

I learned this morning that Oma passed away. Though I am trying to remember her life with joy, right now I can only grieve.

For all the distance between us, Oma and Opa O were pillars of my childhood. They never forgot a birthday or failed to call or write at the holidays. We can count our time together in person in bare weeks but the love I felt in their home and in the homes of their children and from their grandchildren is all the testament one needs to know what a special and wonderful woman Oma was. Oma was my last remaining grandparent and I am so sad that she will not be able to “meet” her latest great-grandchild when Darren and I finally bring home our daughter.

I know she is with my dear Opa Tom, and with Dad and Mom, Shannon, Pam, her sisters and other loved ones who have gone on before her. Somewhere she is dancing, the pain and disability of her body gone, the lightness of her spirit lifted and joy at the meeting of old friends abounds.

Her passing is only hard for us, it is no longer hard for her.

She is added to the Company of the Ancestors and though I know I will see her again, my heart is weary.

Please keep my Aunt Joyce, Uncle Arij, Uncle Jim, Aunt Ingrid, cousing Ezra, Joram, Benjamin, Sharon, Thomas and Maarten as well as my Uncle Rolf (her nephew who was like another son to her) in your thoughts and prayers in the days to come.

I love you all. Even if I don’t see you or talk to you enough, please know that you are special to me.

Many bright blessings and love to you all.

Janice

Oma as young woman

Oma as young woman