My heart is so full. Both with the happiness that the long, long wait was oh, so worth it, even with the 6 AM wake up this morning. And with the sadness that my own mother never got to see my son’s face. Mom, I know you are still with us in spirit, I know you share in our happiness in a way beyond my understanding. But what I wouldn’t give to have you here to hold our Alexei. And me.
OK, while we’re on a somber note, I’m also think of Alexei’s birth mother and foster mother in China. In years to come we’ll come up with some ritual to honor them, but today I will just say the simplest thank you for the gifts you gave our son, the gift of his life and the gift of his good care in that first year of life.
To all the women in my life who are mothers, in whatever form that motherhood takes, I honor you this day as well.
Janice, proud and happy (if tired) mom to Alexander Darren Xiao van Slimming
Quick edit to add this pic:
Sorry, I’ve been too tired/busy to post a proper update. Suffice it to say our boy continues to grow and thrive. He’s such a joy and his learning and exploring of his world is so fascinating to watch. He seems to learn something new every day. He is also starting to look more like a little boy and less like a baby. He’s still pretty small for his age but as of his 18 month check up all his measurements are on the American growth charts and his progress is very steady. His expressive language is growing though we’re still waiting for the major cascade which we know is coming. His balance and coordination are amazing, too.
We’ve been working on sleep issues for a while, trying to get him back into the co-sleeper vs in between us. It’s been a bit hit or miss. He starts off good but often in the middle of the night wants into our bed and at 3 or 4 AM it’s too much to try to get him to go back down. So for now we’ll just keep working on it. He’s also 20 months now and really beginning to show signs of the big 2 coming on. We’ve had some serious meltdowns over control issues (sitting in the high chair is the major source of drama this week) but overall he is still a very happy boy.
Alexei started toddler gymnastics in April and he is loving it. He’s still a little unsure about the parachute games – he loves to shake the parachute and go underneath and try to grab it but anything that involves being on top of the parachute is a non-starter. But he loves the running and jumping and tumbling parts. And the falling onto mats part. He finally found a world that IS made of pillows!
Sad news in our life is that our Ebony passed away. It was quite sudden though she’s been on the downside of a couple of conditions – still I thought we had a while longer with her. It so hard to say good bye to our furry babies. A cat-less household is so odd for us. But we need some time to heal before we think about adding new critters to our family.
Mother’s Day is Sunday and I am excited finally to be able to celebrate as a mom myself!
Well, hope you enjoy this little video. (Turn the sound off if you don’t want to listen to me play Over-Enthusiastic Mom. LOL!)